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New Decade

I turn forty today. I have been preparing for this momentous occasion for almost a year. Change is hard for me and the upward progression in my age is really difficult.  There was a time in my late 20's and early 30's when I did not tell anyone my age. My younger sister often joked that I had turned 29 so many times that she had become the older sister.

My sister and mother have been supportive by surprising me for almost two weeks with a small gift every day. My sister has a way with words and has sent me very funny poems, as well as, heart felt warm notes. 

Planning celebratory events to "ring" in the new decade was a way for me to transition my way into forty. The 12 Race Challenge, our weekend trip to Charleston and a party on my birthday with all my girlfriends were ways to make me feel positive. And it has worked - I feel comfortable saying, "I am forty."

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