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I started a journal in October 2006 that focuses solely on the accomplishments of our children. From what they say, do, eat, like, dislike - you get the idea. I know ten days after something happens, I will most likely forget because some other skill has taken its place or as some say, Mommy Brain has taken over.

When I look back, I am astonished at the progress Ben has made and how things have changed.

My first entry in this journal is about a beautiful fall day that I remember so well, Ben was 3 and Logan was 1: "We went to Davidson, NC and relaxed at a park. The boys discovered leaves and how they will blow in the wind. Ben sat up at least 8x in an hour just because he wanted to do it. Logan chased the blowing leaf he'd let go in the wind."

December 2006
"Ben has been standing up in his pack-n-play and pulling lamps, the table - he's sneaky."
We did not know he could pull himself up and could not understand why items on a side table were always on the floor.

I actually videotaped Ben while he was supposed to be napping, and when that did not work, I peaked through the window and spied him standing up.
February 2007
I am able to track Ben's obsession with Bob the Builder by this journal entry:
"Ben LOVES 'Bob the Builder Live'. He can watch it non-stop if we let him."
July 2007
"Ben sayng words: Ball, Outside, All Done and Swing"
Ben, at one time, seemed to say words. The he stopped. It is a little sad and also perplexing when I read this entry.
Summer 2008
"Ben is a crazy man in the walker, running everywhere. First year for Ben in Imagination Station Camp and they did not know what he could not do so they gave him a lot of independence. He can sit at a picnic table with no help. We donated his snugseat wheelchair so he now sits at the dining room table in a regular chair without help."
I think "Wow" when I read this. I forget he even had a special chair to help him sit.
I keep this journal for myself and in hopes that in years to come, my children will want to read about themselves and the little and big things they did as little kids.


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