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Tying Up Loose Ends

Last summer when we used the Landeez Chair with Ben at the beach, we needed to purchase a small belt to keep him in place. We bought it at a small hardware store for $3 - fastener and all.

A few weeks ago when I took Ben for a haircut, I remembered the belt was still in the trunk. If you have seen the photos of Ben getting a haircut, you know he can hang upside down, turning a regular visit to Supercuts into an Olympic event for me. Ben would leave with a new haircut and I'd have sore muscles and a bad back, and possibly a few scissor stabbings.

This time, we used the belt around his waist and it was just enough restraint to keep Ben in line. He realized about 1/3 of the way into it that he was not going to get out of the situation so he sat back and watched Bob the Builder on the small DVD I brought.

Not that I am counting, but one point for me.
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  1. AnonymousApril 5, 2011 at 9:34 AM

    Try giving him sips of his favorite milkshake between snips. It does work for some. Joan

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  2. AnonymousApril 5, 2011 at 9:36 AM

    I'm really not anonymous, just don't know any other way to get it to post.

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  3. VMIApril 6, 2011 at 12:15 PM

    Hi Joan - Smoothie is a great idea because Ben&Jerry's is next door and I could get it there! Thanks for the tip. And I knew who you were :)

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