Ben in the middle with Dad (left), Carla Payne with Aging Care Matters and Mom This is the first of several posts about parenting an adult child with a disability. Ben will be 19 this summer; I am learning along the way. As always, I hope to pass on resources and wisdom. Discuss the future. If your adult child is able to participate in planning for their future, ask them how they envision it. Let them draw a picture. Ask them to tell you a story. Maybe they can sign a few words that mean a lot to them. Find a way to get them involved. How do they see themselves living? By themselves, in a group home, with another family or with a sibling? Where do they want to live? In another city, in an apartment, in a house? How far away do they want to live from family? What level of independence can they handle? Do they want someone to check in on them? Do they want to find a job? Do they need a job coach or supportive employment? Who will help them with their finances? Is there someone they tru
What a wonderful story -- I am glad there are people like that in the world!
ReplyDeleteAnd that is one cute idea for an appreciation card for a teacher. Does he like having his hands painted? Our little guy only likes it if it is *his* idea.
Ben does not love arts and crafts - he tolerates it. He has gotten more patient with painting and crayons as he's gotten older. But his preference would be to tear the paper and eat the crayon.
ReplyDeleteBen's teacher has taught me that even if he just helps in one way, like handing the macaroni or whatever the piece is to the teacher, then she glues it, then he has helped with the project. This has helped me create expectations of Ben that he can tolerate and meet.
I didn't know last week was teacher appreciation week! What a creative way to say thank you :) Great work, Ben!
ReplyDelete~Michelle @ 5MFSN