After I learned about this, life with children made a lot more sense to me. Not that this is earth shattering material, but it helped me to better understand the hows, whats and whys of behavior in children, and occasionally husbands.
I am in no way an expert in this - just a parent who wants to share a behavior strategy that has worked in our home. I hope to inspire others to explore it further. Any errors in information comes from me and cannot be blamed on the presenters. Also, you may have seen ABA - Applied Behavior Analysis - connected most often with Autism - please do not let this deter you if your child is not autistic. I use these methods with all my children, none of which are labeled autistic.
Situation - You have picked up your daughter from a full day of school. You have been at work all day. You are both hungry and tired. You have to stop at a grocery store to pick up a few items. As you take a short cut through the cookie isle, your daughter asks politely if she may have a cookie. You say, "No!" She instantly falls on the floor and goes into a full tantrum. After a few threats of timeout, no cookies for life and counting to 3, you open a pack of cookies from the shelf and give her one. She stops crying and you carry on with your grocery shopping.
- In this example, if the mom could have foreseen that the child would be hungry, she could have brought a snack for the car.
- The mom may have chosen a different path through the grocery store.
- Go to the grocery store another time.
- Stop by the produce section, get a banana and let your child eat it. Pay for it with the other groceries.
- The child requested the cookies in a polite manner. Not that the mom has to say yes, but she could have explained it more than just saying, "No!"
- Teach your child to request items with simple signs, pictures, gestures or word approximations.
- Teach child to wait.
- Teach child to accept no.
- Teach negotiation. *Typical children have this skill and often we will work out a deal with our typical child because they have the words. Think about your non-conversational child and how they would negotiate if they had the skills. You can use pictures and signs to help them make a choice. Think about what rewards you can offer in a negotiation - "First you do this, then we can read your favorite book."
- When problem behavior is replaced with appropriate behavior, REWARD! REWARD! REWARD!
- Make sure the reward is desirable. Do not give him a sticker if he does not like them.
- Association of Behavior Analysis International
- ABC's of ABA
- ABA Resources
- Healing Thresholds
- Association for Positive Behavior Support Newsletter
- Behavior Advisor
- Diane Bannerman Juracek, Ph.D., Senior Administrator, Community Living Opportunities and Amy McCart University of Kansas
- Natalia Acosta, BCABA, ABA Therapist with Stepping Stones in Charlotte, NC
And thank you to the Down Syndrome Association of Charlotte for hosting these events.