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Who Are the Lucky Ones?

Many weeks ago, a friend's post on Facebook spoke about her daughter's extended visit at the hospital. Her daughter has had many surgeries, has multiple special needs and requires serious medical care. Several friends and family sent well wishes in the comment section. One person wrote, "Your daughter is so lucky to have you."


Of course this person was offering support to a friend, but my immediate reaction was, "No, you have it backwards. We are the lucky ones."



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  1. Dear Vanessa,
    I love your blog, just found it while looking at last year's Exceptional Child Magazine. I am one of the lucky people who get to help kids with challenges at my Brain Balance Center. When I saw your blog about Ben's diagnosis, I immediately thought our program could help Ben's development. We work on bringing up brain function in one hemisphere and help the two to integrate. We have a living social voucher available until June 4th and I think it may be something you would want to look into. Thank you for being a resource and for sharing your story. My email is smoneti@brainbalancecenters.com.
    Sylvia Moneti

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