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Saying Goodbye

Over the past seven years, we have had so many wonderful therapists, caregivers, teachers and friends enter our lives because of Ben.

Desiree is one of Ben's physical therapists, and she is leaving her position next month. Her husband was offered a job opportunity in another state where they happen to also own a home.

Desiree  is a straight shooter who cares about her clients intently. She has helped us make decisions about walkers and tricycles. She introduced Ben to the TAOS. Desiree works Ben hard each time, but always in a caring and safe manner.

Saying good bye in this day and age is not as it once was. Desiree won't ride into the sunset never to be heard from again. We have Facebook, Twitter and blogs - we can stay in one another's lives, if even peripherally.

The people who have helped Ben along the way are almost like his own milestones. They take him part of the way on his journey and then leave him in the care of another.


  1. Dear Ben,

    It has been a pleasure working with you, you have been amazing to work with and have grow up so much since I have first started working with you! You have shown that nothing is out of your reach if you put your mind to it! Continue to grow and meet your goals, nothing is unachievable it you put your mind to it.

    With Love,


  2. That is a beautiful picture. It is hard to say goodbye to the people who have made a change for good in our lives. Best of luck to you all!


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