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Feeling a Little Nostalgic

This little buggy is really too small for any of our boys, but they still find ways to play with it. When they were small, we had three like it and most of the time, these cars were inside the house. The boys played in them all the time.

This one has been relegated to the outdoors, part of my several step program to get toys to the give-away pile. Whenever we are outside, Ben has his eye on this car.

Today, Ben was determined to get inside. Since his feet and legs did not fit, he closed the door and let them hang out. He did all of this without assistance - from getting into the driver's seat and maeuvering his body to closing the door and getting his feet over the side.

Getting out was a different story.

The Good Ol' Days


  1. There is something very satisfying about seeing the children revisiting old toys. Not only do you feel like you're getting your money's worth, it gives you perspective of just how far they have come. I can imagine the difficulty you had extracting him this time though, he is well wedged in there, he did a remarkable job of persuading himself that he still fit! Great photos, thanks for sharing

  2. Thanks for writing Renata! I find that toys are often revisited when we are about to get rid of them - they suddenly become the most important toy in the house. As for Ben squeezing his long and lanky body in the car, makes me smile every time - because of the accomplishment and the shear silliness of it.


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