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Gettin' a Little God

Perhaps it is just our family, but once we had kids, getting to church on a Sunday morning was impossible. Our excuses ran from too darn tired to just too damn tired. Our church, of which we have been members for over 8 years, has been understanding, baptizing our kids in spite of last seeing us at the prior child's baptism.

This year, we have made a successful attempt (and yes, it is only February) to attend Sunday School every week. A community helper comes with us to help Ben at his Sunday School class while Ryan and I go to an adult class. Logan is in class with Ben, and Sean attends a group for younger children.

The children start with music before class.

When we arrive on Sundays, volunteers are setting up for Room In the Inn. Everyone, especially the children, are able to help setup the beds for the guests who arrive Sunday evening.  We have also taken part in the youth programs at indoor water parks and bowling alleys. These activities have made the boys more comfortable with the group because they see the other kids outside of church.

Ben listens to Mr. Terry, the Sunday School teacher
We do not stay for the service, it would be too much for Ben and perhaps for us also. For now, this has been a great way to get back into the church, re-introduce ourselves to the members and get the boys acclimated to a new community. After the first Sunday, Logan said he wished everyday was Sunday so he could go to Sunday School again and again. It has been good for all of us.

Sometimes Ben needs a break from the lesson and walks the halls.

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  1. Hi! My name is Jodi and my husband Josh and I have two boys (3 and 1/2 years old and 2 years old). Our oldest son has global developmental delays bordering on severe and we have no diagnosis yet. I came across your blog because of the blog awards (I voted for you!) and after reading your story/diagnosis, I just had to contact you. Our son sounds a lot like your son in many areas and our pursuit of a diagnosis is nearly the same as yours. We've only seen one neurologist and we're still working with the genetics department at Children's Mercy Hospital here in Kansas City. We've seen a developmental pediatrician as well and come up empty handed. I'd love to get in touch with you because we are actually planning to move to San Francisco this year and I'd love to hear about the studies your son is participating in.
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  2. Hey! This is great!! I think you are doing the right thing by sticking with Sunday School and not trying to stay for the whole service.
    What a priceless opportunity this is for your family!


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