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Can't We All Just Get Along?

Last week, in response to being annoyed with each other, Logan and Sean used choking, hitting and pushing to settle their differences. My challenge was not to yell until I lost my voice, so I calmly (calm for me) gave out time outs with privileges revoked. They each lost their prized activities - Sean lost TV time and Logan lost playtime.

In addition to having to sit in our bedroom after school until bedtime, I asked Logan to draw a picture of brothers getting along and then write a story to accompany it. This is what I got:

Notice the check marks on the top drawing and the X's on the bottom drawing. They depict what is good behavior and bad behavior.

Logan's words: If you do not push somebody it will be fun for everybody. If somebody pushes you you do not push back.

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