For the past several months, at about 8pm, Ben crawls up on the couch with my husband or me, cuddles and falls asleep within the hour. It started out with a lot of oohs and ahhs from us - snuggling with Ben is very sweet. If we move him too early, he gets out of his room and crawls right back with us as if nothing happened.
I do wonder if we are doing the right thing by allowing this behavior. Questions enter my mind - Do I want this same behavior six months from now? Not sure. Would I allow my typical sons to do this? Definitely not.
But then I also think about how life has changed in the past year with respect to Ben's sleep schedule. He is not getting up many times a night due to nasal congestion. He is going to sleep at a reasonable hour and sleeping until morning.
Ben's snuggling could be meeting a need - spending time with us without his brothers. Ben is in school or camp all day, then typically has therapy or a home staff person working with him in the evenings. This is quiet one-on-one time with us. This is his way of communicating this need for special time with us.
For right now, we're sticking with it. Need to re-evaluate again and talk with his behavior therapist. It feels right and going with my instincts has become a good habit for me.