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Sirs Tom , Mike , Mark , Rodney, Dan , Eddie , Wyatt , Matthew and Brian are all at the top of their field in construction, designing, remodeling and building in the Charlotte and surrounding areas. Early one morning last week, they put aside their own busy lives to discuss a timeline for building an accessible bathroom for Ben. In one hour, they made several decisions: They discussed foundation, dumpster and sub-contractor issues. They volunteered for coordinating the project, framing the structure and donating supplies. Finally,  they chose a start date - March 15, 2015 . WooHOO! A few of these men know our family because Ryan was in construction for a number of years and worked directly with them. Most of them do not know us at all, and when the National Association of Remodeler's Industry of Greater Charlotte (NARI) introduced the idea of building an accessible bathroom for a family in need, they volunteered for the project. There was no arm twisting - they wanted

In December, the ABLE Act was passed. It allows for families to save up to $100,000 in a special account that will not affect Social Security (Supplemental Security Income) benefits. These accounts will take about a year to get up and running. Each state is responsible for setting up their own program. Read these articles for more detailed information: Autism Speaks - 10 Things to Know about ABLE Account Saving for College - The ABLE Act and What it Means Investment News: Meet the ABLE Account NC Legislation

When your kid with special needs does something so unexpected, it makes you remember that the diagnosis delayed development  could mean waiting for skills to emerge, interests to blossom and age appropriate behavior to advance. Even as parents, we tend to forget that our child's brain may develop at a different rate possibly exhibiting growth when least expected. When it does happen, it hits you right in the face, but in a good way. This morning, we were all hanging in our playroom. We were enjoying the space after decluttering the room and donating bags of toys to the local thrift store. Ben was with us and he reached up to a bin full of balls and chose a junior size football, one that we use all the time outside. He took the ball and handed it to Sean. Under my breath, trying not to squeal with excitement, I told Sean to play ball with Ben. Logan and Sean did not understand the significance of this moment. Joining us in the playroom, locating a ball, choosing a ball, getting