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28 Days of Cayden

Between the ages of two and four, most of Ben's therapies were at a clinic. I spent many hours with Logan hanging out in the waiting room while Ben did his thing with the therapist. It was not a favorite time of my life, but a highlight was meeting one other mom, named Shira, who also had a child with special needs who was also the same age as Ben. My first impression of Shira was one of awe. She had a laminated card system explaining her son, Cayden, to anyone who cared to know. It hung from his wheelchair and was brightly colored. Not only was she organized and informative, Shira was also approachable and friendly. Having someone to talk to during the office visit made the time go by much more quickly. After weeks of spending time in an old dark waiting room, we became friends. Now we do not see each other very often, but we have a bond through our children, shared experiences and respect for one another. I truly feel that if I needed something, I could call upon Shira. (

Caught in the Act

Leave it to Kim, Ben's longtime caregiver and family friend, to catch Ben doing the chair trick and videotape it. It is not for the faint of heart, especially mothers or grandmothers. The camera jumps when it looks like Kim might have to prevent a spill. After witnessing this climb, Kim's recommendation was to leave the tray off the chair so that Ben could get in it properly without risking life and limb. Sounds like a good idea to me.

Just Do It

Early one morning, I found Ben sitting on top of the tray to his Rifton Hi-Lo Activity chair. Everyone was sleeping so there were no witnesses to this triumphant climb. Most of us were dumbfounded by this accomplishment. Often, I wish we had a "Benny Cam" to catch Ben's crazy antics and ninja-like moves on video. A person close to Ben was sure Ryan was playing a practical joke, and put Ben up there for me to find. I assured this person that my snoring husband was just as surprised as me. If not for my own ninja like reflexes with the camera, no one would have believed this story. My being believed superseded my worry for Ben falling. After some investigation, it became obvious that Ben had searched the fridge for food, left unwanted zucchini bread on the floor and when he did not find what he wanted, decided to wait in the dining room for someone to bring food. Ben has waited in the dining room numerous times, but always in a regular chair. He has been able to get